It’s not hard to achieve. It’s not uncommon. It’s not something you would want to have.
Well, in some relationships – when it does not work – you can quit.
You can announce you are leaving, pack your things and close the door.
Not with your children.
So when it gets tougher and tougher, what do you do?
Never take out your problems on your kids.
Yes, I have a job as well and there are days when the stress level is fairly high. Closing the office door does not help. Not even slamming it would.
You take the stress with you.
Where your kids are.
So when you are there, just about to vent all the frustration and anger on them, stop.
Then, ask yourself a question: how did your kids deserve you taking out your problems and showering them with stress, yelling and barking?
They did not, did they?
Even though they might do all sorts of things. Annoy you even more. They ARE kids! It’s normal.
Then ask yourself another question:
How would I feel if anyone did the things I was just about to do to my kids to me?
Not pleasant. Right?
If that did not cool you down, you’ll do yourself and them a favor by taking a cold shower. Words hurt, use them wisely. A few “too loud” evenings can inflict a lot of damage in a relationship.
Shower your child with quality time
Find the time. No matter how busy you are. No matter how busy you think you are. Life is short.
When I look at old pictures, I don’t look at the buildings. I don’t look at the strangers. I only look at family. With respect, love and appreciation.
Now, let this be the lesson for you. Why should you feel love when looking at old pictures of the time long gone and spend no time now with your kids?
Find the time. Find out what they like. Join them in that activity. Play with them. If you don’t know how to play with kids or don’t have your own source of inspiration, keep coming to this website.
Find out what moves them. Find out which is their favorite toy. Join them in their life and they will tenfold pay it back.
If you don’t think that will work, try it first on your partner. Here are three tips how to do it from an expert bigger than me. And if it worked it’s about time. Go, create and enjoy a healthy and happy relationship with your kids.